Check out http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/lifematters/blogs/ask-sam/sex-addiction-infidelity-and-mistresses-michelle-bombshell-mcgee-talks-to-sam-brett-about-her-affair-with-jesse-james/20101018-16q1g.html for the official Sydney Morning Herald article – but here’s what Michelle had to say about Jesse James and her trip down under!
“Sex addiction is just an excuse for celebrities who get caught.”
Or so says Michelle “Bombshell” McGee, the woman who is responsible for the downfall of one of Hollywood’s most revered couples: Jesse James and Sandra Bullock.
When McGee, 32, recently flew Down Under for the annual “Sexpo” event, I didn’t want to pass up an interview. And while my colleagues were not exactly impressed – with sentiments ranging from, “Why is the media even giving this woman air time?” to “Why the heck would you have sex with a married man anyway?” to “Glorifying what she did only continues to show these horrible men/woman that by doing the wrong thing they will be famous for 15 minutes” – I was still intrigued.
I wanted to find out straight from the Bombshell’s mouth about all the cheating/husband-stealing/infidelity topics we’ve long been discussing on this blog. Why did she do it? Did she have no sympathy for Bullock’s feelings? Did she have no regard for the pact of sisterhood which clearly states: “Thou shalt not bonk another woman’s man”? Did she regret her actions? And why the heck would any woman opt to become a “mistress”?
Well, apparently she didn’t know he was in a relationship. Yep, according to the petite brunette (who is covered head to toe in tattoos), James kept his marriage to Hollywood’s sweetheart entirely under wraps. Hence, she had no idea the dude was still married when she got into a year-long relationship with him and fell head over heels in love.
“I wasn’t a mistress,” she said. “I went to it as a single person. I didn’t think I was dating a married man.”
The two met on MySpace when McGee contacted James in a bid to become one of his West Coast Choppers models. When he replied to her message by giving her his private email address, the romance started to bloom. When she visited his workplace, she said the two spoke for about four hours before he made a “high school move” by putting his arm around her and giving her a kiss.
“That was when I stopped him and asked him about his relationship,” she recalls. “He said he couldn’t talk about it and that they were separated, didn’t live together and were getting a divorce. I believed him.” (It’s unclear whether she realised “getting a divorce” meant he was still technically married whether he was telling the truth or not.)
When I asked how she felt when she found out James was still (supposedly happily) married, she said it was a gut-wrenching moment.
“I felt just like anyone would have if they’d been lied to for a year. When I switched on the television for the Academy Awards and saw him crying as Sandra won the Oscar, I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. I was shocked.”
She didn’t suspect anything while she and James were dating?
“Not a thing. I thought it was a bit strange that he never wanted to go out or be photographed with me. But I just thought that’s what famous people do.”
So, why did she come out with the story so publicly to the tabloids? Revenge? A woman scorned?
“It wasn’t my choice. A friend of mine spilt details to a magazine and they were going to print the story no matter what. But they had this outrageous story about weird sexual romps and it wasn’t true. So I wanted to at least tell the truth.”
Does she have any regrets?
“I feel horrible for Sandra that her relationship ended so publicly. I wasn’t the only one. But it just seems that I got a lot of the heat. And then he went off to sex rehab and left me to hold the ball.”
Was James really a sex addict?
“No way. Sex addiction is just an excuse for celebrities who get caught.”
With no sex addiction in the picture, why then do so many married men do it? Is it as former US president Bill Clinton once said, because they can? Is it because their wives don’t give them enough action between the sheets? Do they simply get bored? Is it inevitable?
I was shocked and horrified last week to hear about the split between David Arquette and Courtney Cox, another seemingly seamless Hollywood couple.
But in an interview with Arquette on The Howard Stern radio show, he revealed that he hadn’t been intimate with his wife in more than a month. The reason? He blamed the fact that she’s an “emotional woman and if it doesn’t feel right, she doesn’t feel like bonding in that way”. He also claimed that she nagged a lot, acted like his “mother” most of the time and didn’t accept him the way he was.
So did that equate to giving himself permission to bonk an LA cocktail waitress behind her back as he reportedly did? Evidently so.
Which brings me back to the question of the day: when does one partner become responsible for the other having an affair? If your partner is pushing you away, is that a sign to go elsewhere for some nookie?